This is very much like asking, what is love?
I can only speak about what healing means to me. I am also aware this definition is limited by how much healing I have done in my own life and will change as I heal more of myself.
This is what I know:
Healing is not linear, it curves, it zig zags, sometimes it seems like it takes a few steps backward and one step forward.
There is no straight line to a destination of “I AM HEALED”. Often we make progress and then find ourselves triggered and feel like we are back “there” again. This just means there is more to heal, another layer, a related wound, and there may still be some charge around it.
It is a journey and there are many paths which lead to healing.
There is no one right way to heal. Each of us needs to find what resonates with us and create a healing path that works for us. There is no one size fits all. Some will take a more spiritual approach, some a more body centered approach, some will choose not to delve into their pain and use positive psychology and other methods to move beyond the past. I personally like a three prong approach, healing mind, body and spirit/soul.
If it works for you, do it.
Some wounds are deeper than others, but pain is pain.
People will often compare themselves to others, minimizing by saying their pain isn’t as bad as others. Even comparing whether they were molested vs. raped for example. Pain is pain people and your pain is as valid as the pain of any other human being.
Healing happens in layers.
People often get frustrated and say, “I thought I healed that!” or “I thought I was over it.” and suddenly, in a moment of being triggered, they find there is more to it, more layers of the wound that need healing.